A younger friend of mine told me last night that she’s “adult-ing” because she’s drinking alcohol. Drinking is fine and all if you do it responsibly but I don’t agree that the consumption of alcohol makes you more of an adult. It’s true that where I live you have to be 21 to drink and people see that age group as “young adults” but I don’t think alcohol plus a person in their early 20s immediately equals an adult. But I’m saying all this to say that you shouldn’t let anything or anyone pressure you into doing something. People are always putting all these ridiculous ideas in our heads to persuade us to do things we wouldn’t normally do otherwise. If you have a bad feeling about something and something inside you (like your better judgement) says not to do it then stick to your guns no matter what it is. It could be drugs/alcohol or it could be that sugary cupcake you don’t need. People will tell you almost anything just to pressure you into doing something.
“It’ll make you more mature…”
“It’s not that bad”.
“You need this” or “You have to have this”.
“You’ll love it”.
“It’ll make you feel good”.
“Don’t be such a baby”.
“Loosen up…live a little”.
“Come on, you’re — years old”.
“Just this one time”.
“If you do this for me I’ll love you forever”.
If someone says things like this in an attempt to persuade you to do something you’re not comfortable with you need to get far far away from them because they’re no good for you. If they had your best interest at heart they wouldn’t be trying to make you do something you aren’t comfortable with. As an adult or young adult you need to have your own set of beliefs and values to cling to. Don’t let anyone take those from you. Stick to your values and beliefs and anyone whose a good friend will stand by you and respect your decisions. If you decide on your own that you want to do something that’s fine, but don’t do it for someone else. Do it because YOU want to. Do it because you’ve really thought about it, you’ve weighed your options, and you’re comfortable with it.
One more thing, if the goal is to be an adult please know that alcohol is not your one-way ticket to adulthood. There are so many things you can start doing in order to prepare yourself for adulthood and I promise you that drinking alcohol isn’t on that list… despite what people tell you or what you see on tv.
Make your own decisions. Do the things that are going to make you happy or content at the end of the day. And always make sure that you’re doing something to help yourself improve and grow.